Always losing your temper? Here is what you should do

ANGER | LIFE

Doesn’t mean if you win an argument, nobody gets hurt

There was once a story about a boy who had anger issues and would always lash at anyone including his family whenever they disagree with him. He would have periodic anger bursts and begin throwing tantrums around the house. One day, his dad gave him a fence and some nails with it. The dad told the son that for each time he feels rage in himself, he should hammer those nails into the fence.

The boy was unable to comprehend his father’s intentions but decided to heed them. So, the boy began hammering those nails into the fence every time he started feeling angry. Gradually, over time, the nails were all hammered into the fence and the boy had no nails left to hammer. However, he realized that he was able to control his anger issues and he rarely has episodes of anger burst. He told his dad that he was glad that he could now control his anger. His dad then told him to remove all those nails from the fence.

The boy was puzzled but decided to heed his father’s request. After removing all the nails, the father asked the boy what he observed from the fence. The boy replied that the fence is all filled with holes without the nails. The father then told him that the fence was like a person’s heart or feelings while the nails were someones’ harsh words.

So here’s the thing, all of us had episodes of anger burst in our lives. There have been times when we felt just like lashing out and saying whatever is on our minds just for the sake of winning the arguments. And how many times have we regretted those words? Even after countless apologies, we will always remember the pain that we inflicted or was inflicted on us due to our loss of temper.

I used to be a kid with a short temper too. Bickering with my folks or friends to prove that I am right was always what I strived for. However, as time passes by, I realized that lashing out or losing my temper easily might have won me arguments but it certainly hurt the people I care about more. If you have tried various methods to suppress your anger but failed, maybe these methods could help you out.

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